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Gillian Longworth McGuire's avatar

I love this (particularly as someone who gave you lots of Rome recommendations) “the best” is something I have been thinking about. A lot. I think I have 3 different essays in my drafts folder) Sometimes the best is an ok coffee at the train station, or the gelateria with a bathroom & a place to sit. (you already know how to make brodo. I have seen you make it! It just chicken broth 😉)

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Sara Lieberman's avatar

Yes! I knew someone would say that about the brodo. Will it be... THE BEST THO? JK. ;) Thanks for reading and getting it. Knew you would as a fellow giver-(and probably asker)-of-recommendations!

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Sara Lieberman's avatar

Oh and I hear you on the drafts folder. The amount of tinkering I do to each of these before hitting send/publish... ooof. Without a "deadline" (even if it's my own) I'd forever keep at it. And even still, I'm often like, "Darnit! I should've said this!" Herein explains the title of my Substack. :) And also why I think a good editor is a godsend. But—and here we come back around to this week's theme—sometimes less = more and "good enough" is...BEST. ;)

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Jill Gallagher's avatar

I feel this HARD. There's so much pressure to do/see/hear ALL THE THINGS but also ALL THE BEST THINGS. Traveling (and watching TV and listening to music and going to the movies) begins to feel like a game, where we're trying to reach some higher level, always, and for what? But it's so difficult to get out of this pattern. Anyway, I hope you enjoy your pasta!

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Sara Lieberman's avatar

Grazie! Gonna give it another week to really crave those cheesy carbs again before digging in. 😃

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Gabrielle's avatar

Just back from italy and I can relate SO MUCH to this. Somehow I did not eat cacio e pepe in Rome and phew I am glad it’s not just me :-)

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Sara Lieberman's avatar

Did you have carbonara or amatriciana?! Those are the other two NOT to have FOMO over! 🤪 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Gabrielle's avatar

🫣shhh don’t tell --I didn’t!! I don’t know how it happened! But my daughter had probably 12 dishes of amatriciana so maybe I won’t go to jail?

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Sara Lieberman's avatar

no jail time for you!

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

Ooh yes, I can relate! "Best of" lists actually stress me out! I like as few options as possible!! Thanks also for the Quartz shoutout.

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Lidiya's avatar

I loved reading this one, and it reminded me of a conversation we had in Paris, while walking to “find” lunch because the reservation fell through (😂), and I (to your horror) admitted that almost all my meals are in places I stumble upon, or tried and true places I return to.

As someone with very strong opinions and guilty of recommending things without being asked, I still find that my best days are the unplanned ones. The meals aren’t always “the best” but the memories are my own. It sounds like that’s what you did with Italy, and it is the best way to go!

(And, echoing another commenter, I bet the brodo you make at home will be better than whatever overcrowded and over-recommended place can serve up on a busy night).

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Sara Lieberman's avatar

Haha I do remember that convo. I was appalled! lol And yup, the brodo I made at home tonight was DIVINE and truly hit the spot. x

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